three favorites thursday – phoning it in on friday edition

I just signed in to write this post and it offered me the option to post on any of my 3 blogs that I have through wordpress. I didn’t remember that I had 3. one of them is called ‘365 days to disney’ which is adorable. and also- how did I not keep up with a full on disneycentric blog?! I’ve got problems.

for anyone keeping track at home we got home from Disney on Monday and my next trip is in… 49 days. So maybe I should change the name of that blog to ‘spoiledass disney princess goes to disney too much’ – though I could change the name of THIS blog to that as well.

bless me father for I have sinned, it has been 15 days since my last blog post, and these are my badly thought out favorites.




Recreational marijuana is about to be legal in Massachusetts. But that’s not my favorite part. THIS article from the Boston Globe  is my favorite part.

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also covered in that piece : what it will cost, how to order, how to pay, where to store it, what to do if you have a bad high. not mentioned: hot chocolate or something sweet.





I’ve written about specific books once or twice I think – currently I’m reading The Party by Lisa Hall – I go through phases, and right now I’m in a Domestic Noir phase-

Oprah’s book club put me off celebrity book clubs – but then Felicia Day’s Vaginal Fantasy book club happened and restored my faith in them. So when I saw that Reece Witherspoon’s book club had recommended a book that I LOVED (The Lying Game by Ruth Ware) I thought she might have some good stuff to suggest.


And she does! Thanks to her book club I just finished The Other Woman by Sandie Jones. It was ridiculous, a good, fast read. I have hated going to work this week because I JUST WANT TO BE HOME READING.  Maybe wearing a toasty pair of footie sweat-pants.

But not only has reading been my favorite but the recent freedom experienced by putting down a book that was DRAGGING MY ASS DOWN has been my favorite. I read an article in the Harvard Business Review about how to read more books – and one of the suggestions was to drop a book when it starts being a chore. Obviously that doesn’t apply if you’re reading for work, or school, but if you’re reading for fun? Put that bench down and find another!

are you on goodreads? I am. you should friend me so I can stalk your reading list. I’m always on the lookout for my next favorite book.




I can’t think of anything to make #3. which is funny because like I said in my first ever post: everything is my favorite.

so while we’re talking about reading I’ll list a couple of my favorite mental health and feminist influencers.

Like Cranky Fat Feminist.

and Jes Baker (The Militant Baker.)

oooh or Virgie Tovar. Maybe especially Virgie Tovar. She’s incredible. and she’s everywhere, like contributing to Forbes, like a boss.

or The Bloggess.  especially especially her most recent blog post about Asha Dornfest’s blog post about dusting off our blogs and writing the things, uniting people over ideas and generally screaming together into the Aether while we save America and one another.  AND and and. the comments on the Bloggess’ post are LOADED with links to other blogs. so go read, and follow, and let’s save America by rebuilding communities of ideas.


so- that’s what I’ve got. I’m especially enjoying the very Friday nature of this three favorites for Thursday. have a great weekend. read all the things.


(so much rambling about a suitcase)

my dad loves convenience stores, his dad did too. They’re open on holidays, some are open 24 hours, they all have news papers and Life Savers and their milk and bread are usually delivered more frequently than they are to the grocery store. Our milk ALWAYS came from the convenience store. I also love them, because I love fountain soda – and other than McDonalds, 7-11 usually has the BEST fountain soda. also I love snacks.

when I was a kid he’d tell me I could have candy if I could decide *right now* so sometimes I didn’t get candy because I’M THE WORST AT DECISIONS. Also, I love him, but patience isn’t a thing he’s known for. I get that from him too. I go from zero to WHAT THE FORK?!!!  in 6 seconds or less.  My lack of decisiveness isn’t Chidi level bad but I’m constantly second guessing myself. Anyways. I want an Away Suitcase (I love shit that gets hyped on instagram, and so far have not been led astray) Annnnnyways (again) They have these collaborations that sell out SO FAST and I want one of those but the next day they’re gone. So I have to decide that I 245 dollars love something split second and that is hard for me. I don’t think I 245 dollars love anything at first sight. But their genius marketing requires that kind of decision making which works in direct opposition to my anxiety.

I have spent HOURS researching what people say about them, does the Bigger Carry-on fit in a JetBlue overhead bin? (seems to) Does the battery actually charge 5x? (seems to) Do they actually fit all that much? (seem to) Am I going to be one of those people dragging a suitcase with a broken wheel? (seems not)

and during that time collaborations have come and gone. The one I’m saddest about I didn’t even KNOW about before it had already sold out. Endor (the green one) was MADE FOR ME. #returnofthejedi4lyfe

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fricking Star Wars Collab – ugh.

they have nine solid every day colors, but… eh? They did a collaboration with Dwayne Wade that included a WINE SUITCASE. Do I need that? no, I wouldn’t have bought it, but I DID like the Bigger Carryon in two tones of blue with a cool liner.

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sold out in a day. I put it in a shopping cart and everything (not this exact one, this is the wine suitcase) but I was in an airport so I figured I’d wait until I got home by which time… gonzo.

they even did a Minions collaboration! Would I have bought a 245 dollar thing to troll my children with? Probably not. But maybe… but probably not.

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Rashida Jones did a collaboration. Her colors were good. That one happened before I realized that I wanted one…

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I dig the salmon color and the purple.

Which leads me to Violet. Violet released yesterday and is still available today! So now, like a jackass, I’m going to “zen of shopping” it and say… if it’s still available tomorrow I’ll get it. Which I probably won’t, because 245 seems like A LOT to spend…

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I think I love it, but do I love it because it is new and limited and purple reminds me of my grandmother? those actually seem like perfectly good reasons to love it.

and around.

and around.

and around.



capitalism jumping the shark

“I’m a hot little potato right now!”

is poverty cool now?

on the other hand – how do I get people to buy my old dirty sneakers for five hundred dollars?  OR. cottage industry idea right now… what if you bring me your own dirty sneakers and I’ll put tape on them. I’ll throw in some safety pins for your denim jacket and I’ll also show you how to apply eyeliner on your lower lid which we can then smudge- making you look like you’ve seen some shit but don’t really care.

my friends and I can sell you some backstory… you’ll for sure impress your buddies on your next golf weekend.


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first apple names their thousand dollar phone the “excess max” and now Golden Goose is legit trying to sell us THIS.  there’s a statement about wealth being made here, but it is being made by the wealthy, and not in a cheeky self aware way.

I don’t like it. my head hurts.


Three Favorites Thursday. v4.

Another week, another Thursday where the news cycle has had me in constant fight or flight. That alone is probably going to cause our entire generation to live shorter lives than our Boomer antecedents. Thanks for weakening unions, Brenda, glad you’re about to get your vested pension though. Love you, mean it.

So… things that are my favorite. (other than the basics like clean water, life liberty and the pursuit of happiness, marriage equality – which just turned 3- Happy Birthday!)

We will call today’s list: Summertime Hygge. Because hibernation with the people we love, candlelight, good books and conversation over wine aren’t only for winter.




Get yours HERE. (you’ll be glad you did)

I love being cozy. Being cozy is my favorite. For this reason I own 23 pair of Lularoe leggings and they’re the thing I put on as soon as I get home. I’m sure you know a dozen people who sell those so I won’t hit you with another, but I will hit you with the most comfortable cardigans ever ever ever. I called them “kryptonite cardigans” to my Trunk Club stylist and she sent me TWO in my next box. (My fault for announcing my weakness like that). I love this style with the ruched sleeve, it keeps them looking a little more polished, and they look nice over little dresses at work, bringing the cozy feeling to the summertime air conditioned office. Nordstrom has some on sale pretty much all the time. They’re so soft it’s almost unfair to every other article of clothing you thought was comfortable before. These are true to size and wash and wear well.




Since the goal is summer coziness in the face of uncertainty and anxiety #2 has to be the weighted blanket I referenced last week. I bought the:

YnM Cooling Weighted Blanket, 100% Natural Bamboo Viscose, 15 lbs 60″x 80″, Thin Gravity 2.0 Blanket, Great Sleep Therapy for People with Anxiety, Autism, ADHD, Insomnia or Stress, Dark Grey

I know I mentioned it very briefly last week but I love it, it isn’t as heavy as is recommended for my weight but I want to be able to carry it around or fold it without pulling something, and I’m not sure it’s “cooling” but it is definitely cool and never makes me feel as if I’m over-heating. I didn’t buy a duvet cover for it so I can’t speak to those. Also it makes for an excellent nap.

10 outta 10. Would buy again.



Three is Thor: Ragnarok. No, I’m kidding. Though after cocktails last night I DID fall asleep watching it again. You gotta do what you gotta do to get through the next few years.

My other other favorite thing this week is art. Specifically from the Cactus Art Gallery in LA. Their exhibits are SO FUN. Their artists are diverse and interesting and the subject matter is as well.  I got this one recently- I’d been eyeing it and went back this week to discover it was still unsold – so that’s a sign, right?

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cutie little owl. eeee. this is going into my studio when I get it.

I think this is my third or 4th piece from the Cactus Gallery. Their pricing is accessible and it doesn’t feel stuffy but still feels like I’m putting a nice collection together.

Their current show is called Board and Room in a Mushroom… and I want all of it.



Support artists (and all fellow humans) with encouragement – even when we aren’t making a sale it is still nice to hear that our work says something to you.






Packing for Imaginary Vacations. (when I have an actual vacation to pack for)

Y’all. on the 9th I had to have a tooth extracted and then this weekend I cracked a tooth on the OTHER side of my mouth – on an egg salad sandwich. So it was the tooth’s time to go I guess. So, I’m still not really eating anything delicious. But! Today someone brought a bag of fun sized candy bars to the office and there are Three Musketeers bars- which are definitely my speed right now.

So I ordered three boxes of chocolates from See’s.  And technically I bought extra to share but I might keep all three for myself because the world is shitty right now and I’m a sucker for a berry creme chocolate. And chocolate in general. And pretty much anything I can eat without worrying that I’m going to stab myself in the gums or break another tooth. (my teeth aren’t all this fragile, just those two.)

I have no regrets,  #becausechocolate

I got an email today with this dress in it. I’m not buying it because like I said – dental work – and also I’m currently pretending that I’m going to Egypt for 17 days in January/February. THOUGH. if I were going to Egypt this dress seems like it could be amazing with a giant hat to wear onboard the Sonesta Star Goddess as we travel up the Nile. Oh… I’m definitely putting together a fake packing list Pinterest board for my fake adventure through Egypt.  hang on…

ok. done.

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the dress:

handpainted dress
perfect, right? I especially love the styling with the shoes.

Anyways, like I said- I’m going on actual vacation on Saturday. I’m going to Disneyland! Don’t roll your eyes at me, I know I was in Disney World last month but this is different. I’ve never been to Disneyland! And everyone is going – Dave, the girls, my sister and her husband and my nephew, and the girls are each bringing a friend… it is a Disney field trip of the highest order. AND. we are doing a VIP tour because it stresses me out to be responsible for other people’s vacations – so to make sure we cover everything… getting a plaid. Wicked excited.


I’ve been making the same list over and over this week – tweaking it a little each time. But yesterday morning it occurred to me that I’m bringing a big-ass-suitcase because I’m NOT stressing out about fitting my outfits and shoes into a little suitcase to prove that I can. That’s not fun at all.

How do I pack for Disneyland? Is it weird that I’m looking at strangers’ Instas to see what people are wearing in their photos?


news breaks that Justice Kennedy is retiring and there goes all of my travel excitement and actual anxiety hits and none of this fun silly stuff matters.


I picked the wrong administration to start a blog about shopping.


Call your senators. 




Nordstrom Trunk Club (part 1)

I’ve mentioned my deep and abiding love for the Nordstrom Trunk Club before but I just got an email that my stylist (Courtney, bless her, she puts up with a lot from me) is going to be putting my next Trunk together soon. Sometimes I ignore it and leave the whole thing to chance- this time since I wanted to talk to you about the process I figured I’d fill it out.

The Trunk Club is a wardrobe subscription service offered by Nordstrom. You can choose the regularity with which you wish to receive your trunk and you can choose your per-item cost, keeping in mind it is Nordstrom and they are sending famous brands. In one Trunk I had a 49 dollar sweater (kept it, love it) and a 1300 dollar St. John blazer (loved it SO MUCH, sent it back, think about it sometimes). So it is really all over the place.  Also they include SHOES if you want them to- I’ve kept 2 pair so far and I am going to get so much wear out of both. And sending things back couldn’t be easier- the UPS label and tape to close the box back up are both included in the Trunk.

To get started you’ll fill out a long-ish questionnaire where they can get a sense of your style, your sizing, preferences, budget, etc.  But after that, and before each Trunk is assembled, there is a very short form when you can highlight boxes to help steer your stylist in a direction. Or where, like me, you can go all Oz Scarecrow on her.

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See? I’m not at all helpful with my requests.

There’s also a text box where you can elaborate. Mine says:

I highlighted every box in the “what are you looking for section” but I’m not actually looking for anything, I just don’t want to rule anything out. I’m trying to avoid black for the warmer months- so navy, ivory, olive, that blush color. I don’t really NEED anything… but jeans that aren’t blue that I can wear to work could be good. (I love Wit & Wisdom.)

I’m going to Nantucket for a few days in August. I’ll have to be presentable in a “casual, stylish, trying hard to look like I’m not trying” way. Thank you!

Asking for something other than black is the stuff my nightmares are made of, yet here we are.

Some of the Trunk pieces that I’ve kept:

When they email back with my selections I will post a Part 2. Part 3 may or may not have pictures of me in it. It will depend on how clean my house is. ::shrug::

The thing I love about it is that my comfort zone is very small, and having someone else choose for me gets me right out of that comfort zone. Though you can see from my thumbnails up there that some of the things are exactly me- that black Eileen Fisher Dress is one of my favorite go-to pieces now. It is stupid comfortable and is a great backdrop for some of my giant statement necklaces.

If you would like to try your very own Trunk (you would!) then please use my referral link. You’ll get new clothes, I’ll get a 50.00 credit if you buy anything from your trunk, we’ll both be happy!



(ps: I tried the proofread function. it tells me to stop using dashes – so I won’t be using that function again.)